I am a stiletto wearing, cabernet sipping and yes……minivan driving Mama of soon-to-be three children. That’s right… I said MINIVAN (and did I mention I’m going from one child to three in one fell swoop?). I have found myself struggling with the idea of driving a minivan for several weeks now, ever since we drove it off the lot. I swore I’d never be that Mom. The one who drove a Minivan because somehow, that means I’ve given up right? Given up myself to that persona of “Soccer Mom” or “Mom Jeans wearing Mom”?
I recently read a status post on Facebook from an acquaintance and I quote:
“Why on God's green earth do people ever buy mini-vans? Does anyone realize that SUVs have just as much cargo capacity and don't make you look like you've completely given up on aspiring to be at least minutely cool. Seriously, what's the draw? Are they giving away lifetime supplies of unisex mom jeans with each purchase....?”
What disheartened me about this post was the fact that many people make this assumption! I tried not to let it bother me. I did. But it still sits with me because I totally disagree with this assumption! My BCBG shoes and dresses are still in my closet….I will still find time to slip them on from time to time (once the twin belly is gone of course) and while I can acknowledge that with twins, and a four year old those totally awesome shoes and dresses will take a small break, they will not retire! They will simply be on hiatus. Period. No argument. Got it judgmental people with no kids?
That is all. Thanks.
PS: I’d love to hear from you Moms on how you maintain balance between your pre-Mommy days and the present. Sure, you have peas on your shirt from time to time, and you can’t get enough of those chubby, drooling love bugs in your home. But what do you do to maintain some balance? To nurture yourself and more importantly, how are you ensuring you aren’t giving up the aspiration of being “cool”?? (whatever that means…haha) I’m writing an article for a small local magazine and would love to use your perspective as a form of inspiration. Not to mention I’m about to jump from one kid to three…..words of wisdom please!!!!